“What if it is not your destiny
to live that dream you are trying so hard for?”, he asked me skeptically. I
knew he meant well but his question churned me from inside out. I stared at him
for a while and gave him a confused look, not very sure of how or what to
respond. It was a day we were having a thoughtful debate about life and related
pieces. From soul to life to mind till destiny, we had been through all
subjects with an infectious enthusiasm. We were on the verge of closing the
dialog, when my friend’s question about destiny infected me with a virus of
negative thoughts. Although I told him I will get back with a response as we parted and
dispersed at the end of the day, I was not very sure about it myself.
On my way, back I typed “destiny”
on the google home page and smiled at the thought of letting google tell me
what my destiny is. A plethora of definitions appeared on the screen but none satisfied
my yearning. As I relinquished to that itch of not knowing about what my own
destiny is, I also decided to find it out by any means. Be it through books,
people, or any other source, I should know what destiny is. Am I destined to
live my dreams? Or is it my destiny to just live, earn and pay my bills on
time, surrender to society’s idea of settling down, populate the planet, accept
my nature of surviving till the day I leave my body. Somehow I was not ready to
accept this.
Through time, phases and
experiences, through enlightened people and their books, I gradually started to
understand it. And realized that people always have misunderstood the word
destiny. They use the word negatively, use the word as an excuse when they
can’t achieve something, they use the word as an acceptance to not being able
to win over something which is beyond their control. Their exact words being,
“I couldn’t achieve it because it was not destined”. They think they can’t go
against their destiny, unaware that they create their own destiny.
Yes, we have been wrong about it
all the way, for what I now know, my destiny is synonymous to me, it is my
mirror image, it is something I can shape as I want. It is something I can
create on my own. And it is true of every single being on this planet. Our
destinies can only be created by us and only us. Our paths of achieving our
destinies may vary but are destinies are same. Our destinies are to be our
highest selves. And the faster we acknowledge the fact, faster we will be able
to achieve our destinies.
In here I sum up what I now
understand of our destinies.
1.
Our destiny is to know who we are, and
experience ourselves.
2.
It is to find our purpose and fulfill it.
3.
It is to evolve with time and take ourselves to
the next highest level and then the next till we reach to our highest self.
4.
It is to accept our faults and act toward remedying
those.
5.
It is to realize that our soul is divine and
achieve our potential as a super human, as the Universe, as God.
6.
It is to live in pure harmony with nature.
7.
It is to rejuvenate our body till the day we
want to use it.
8.
It is to surrender to the idea of perfection of life
in the moment but also keep trying to make it better with every moment.
9.
It is to align our souls with the Universe.
10.
It is to unleash the power of our infinite mind.
11.
It is to allow the flow of abundance inside us.
12.
It is to focus only on the positive aspects of
life and radiate only positivity to people surrounding us.
13.
It is to achieve the ultimate happiness and stay
with it.
14.
It is to reach that state of mind where we feel
ecstatic to be alive.
15.
It is to nurture a desire, know it will be ours
and create a path to gain that desire.
16.
It is to forgive ourselves for all the wrong
paths we have taken and accept those as learnings and not as detours.
17.
It is to commit ourselves to the very moment we
are living in.
18.
It is to live all our dreams, the small ones and
the ones we find so audacious it scares and excites us at the same time.
19.
It is to have that courage of following our idea
of bliss.
20.
It is to live free of the societal ideas for our
lives.
21.
It is to love ourselves to the core and know
that we deserve the highest level of love.
22.
It is to not settle for anything less than what
we deserve.
23.
It is to live the highest form of love with
someone whom we connect with at every level.
24.
It is to not accept what others, say about what our
destiny is or should be.
25.
It is to design our own destiny.
Today, as I write this, I believe
I am ready to answer my friend’s question about my destiny. I know I am
destined to live all my dreams, every single one of my dreams. I know my
destiny is me with all my dreams.
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